Life is an experience made up of large and small moments. Inside each of these moments, relationships are found. The depth and importance of these relationships are as broad as the sky. But for each moment and the corresponding relationship, we can usually point to a beginning and an end.
Where we run into a problem is when we can't point to the end. That's when we use words like "closure." Even if the ending is bad, we prefer to have an ending, a moment, a story, a final chapter. Whether it's sports, school, romance, or a job, we like to have a clear and finite finish to the storyline in a given moment or relationship.
If there isn't a finishing point, we convince ourselves we're "over it" and we brush it off like it's no big deal. The only problem with that is when we're suddenly reminded of the relationship or moment. You can be completely fine and moving forward in your life and then you wake up one morning from a dream. For the rest of your day you debate whether or not to call, text, email or maybe even write a letter. Most of us don't. We just suffer through the day until those memories are properly contained and we go back to our B.I.O (brush it off) mentality.
John Mayer says it this way....
"Even if you think the flame has died, theres's a least one lyric that'll hit that last hot spot, and then you'll find yourself as [messed up] as the day you lied and said you never wanted to see her again."
He of course is speaking purely about romance but I think the logic applies to all areas of life. My effort to overcome this feeling of "wish I woulda" is to live the moment. Fight for every inch of it and when the end approaches, punch it in the face and make a fight of it. At least that way you'll know there was an end and you'll have that all desirable closure.
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